Before we can begin to learn, there is a bit of legal business we need to take care of: the forgotten contract.
How many of you at some point in your lives have ever been told that “perhaps music isn’t your thing”, or the e-music-ulating statement, “don’t give up your day job”?
Or worse yet, how many of you have actually started a music lesson or musical conversation the the words, “I’m no good at…” or “I have terrible rhythm.”?
These types of statements may seem benign and harmless, or merely conversational, but sub-consciously they are huge; the equivalent of signing in ink, a legally binding contract. You see, our subconscious won’t let us be liars – if we say we are bad at something, then we are. (On the other hand, if we say we are good at something, then our subconscious tries its hardest to make that true, as well.)
It is this contract that we need to render invalid before we can move on to learn things.
Fortunately, this is easily done.
First, let’s see if we can locate some of those old forgotten contracts. Did one of your teachers tell you that you were untalented or shouldn’t play an instrument? Now imagine a document that represents that scene; a parchment paper complete with fancy writing, plenty of legal mumbo jumbo and your signature down at the bottom that signifies your willingness, conscious or not, to go along with the agreement.
Now tear it up. Destroy it. Wad it up, stomp on it, light it on imaginary fire! It’s the only copy – no one will ever know it’s missing.
Go through this process with as many negative incidents as you can remember, and just for extra measure, imagine one giant all-inclusive contract that covers any ones you forgot.
Now that you are free of any contractual obligations that will hinder you from learning – be careful not to inadvertently create any new ones.
Avoid statements such as: “I am not good at…..”
Instead you could say: “I wasn’t good at…….” or “I am working on my….”.
These statement acknowledge that fact that you may not be up to speed and as good as you want to be, yet leave the door open for improvement.
(It’s hard to break the habit of making these negative statements about yourself and your abilities, but just being aware of these statements is the first step to learning how to re-phrase your self limiting comments.)
Okay… now that we have taken care of those unsettled, unhelpful contracts, we can proceed.
What do you want to learn?
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